The Mommy Maven's

I’m sure you are all wondering where the hell I’ve been and I do feel like a bad blogger for falling off but its for a very exciting reason. Liat and I have started a new business….yes you heard right, and we are finally following through with this one!

I’d like to introduce you all to “The Mommy Mavens” J This business came about after Liat and I realized that SO many people need help with baby related advice. Baby nurse recs, what stroller should I get, do you like your pediatrician, and over and over again, can you check my registry. Since we love helping our friends, we decided to take it to the next level and start this business.

Although we’re starting to work with you while you’re pregnant in preparation for baby we would also like to continue to be there for you after the baby makes his/her debut. Eventually we would like to build a little mommy community where we can have social events to get us mamas together, talking and helping one another. As all you moms out there know, having a baby is the best and most challenging job you will ever have! Someone once described being a new mom as starting a new position where you’re given no direction and your boss speaks a different language. Well we wanna be there to translate. If you have any questions or feedback please email us talishustik@gmail.com or liatkletz@gmail.com

Leaving the babe behind

I remember when Tyler (my nephew) was a baby I would make fun of Liat because she would never leave him with the daycare at Equinox or go away without him. I would say “when I have a baby they’re gonna be independent and I’m gonna leave them all the time”. Let me tell you, I could not be more wrong!

About 3 months ago we got in invitation to one of my best friends wedding…in Mexico. I had known for a while it would be there but when the invite came it became all too real. We were leaving J behind for 2 whole nights. In some ways I was very excited to have some alone time with Shai, and sit on the beach without making sure I have SPF 50, an umbrella, a bottle, a change of clothes, snacks, diapers, toys and anything else I can shove into my diaper bag. However in more ways, I was so anxious, scared and sad. I have been with Jagger for 24 hours for 250 days straight. The week leading up to the wedding I had multiple bouts of hysteria where Shai would only add fuel to the fire. We should travel separate, I’m not coming, you and Liat go instead and so on. I know this all sounds crazy but just wait till you have a baby and you will understand what I mean. He is my entire being, point blank.

So its now Thursday night and the bags are packed after a very teary bedtime with Jagger. Our flight was at 11am so the plan was as follows. We would play with him from 6-8 the following morning then as soon as we put him down for his first nap we would leave and Liat and Kevin would take him the Hamptons. Jagger and Tyler’s babysitters were coming for the weekend too so there would be a 4:3 ratio of adults to kids. I even boot camped Liat on Jaggers feeding routine, bedtime, playtime and so on. We had this down to a science so Shai and I can go relax and have fun. But as you all know, NOTHING ever goes to plan when you have kids.

As Shai and I lay in be making jokes about not going I said to him, tell me if you don’t want to come i'll go alone but make the decision now. After much thought he said he will come...good choice. So Jagger wakes up Friday morning and all is great and normal. We put him down for a nap at 8 and gather our stuff to head out. At 8:10 he wakes up hysterical, in his 8 months of life he has NEVER done that- F*ckin perfect! We panic. We decide we will put him in stroller for a nap and I'll walk him in the hallway till he falls asleep then go to the airport. I make my fist lap and as I walk past the apartment I see Shai frantically pulling his clothes out of the suitcase. Umm excuse me?!?! I freaked and said WTF are you doing. He starts saying it’s a sign and he’s not comfortable leaving him and I’m going alone. I got so mad and started yelling saying why didn’t you tell me last night! Are you kidding!?!? Liat and Kevin hear me (did I mention they live right next door??) and come join me in screaming at Shai that he needs to go! Before I knew it Shai's stuff was back in the suitcase and Liat was walking away with Jagger. I ran back, gave him a huge kiss then stormed down the hallway to the elevator with Shai a few steps behind. A great start to the vacation huh.

We don’t say one word as we walk to our garage. I’m mad at him for trying not to come and he’s mad at me for making him come. We get in the car and as were about to pull out of the garage the light comes on…we have a flat! You have to be kidding me!! Could this morning get any worse?!? We get out the car and Shai's mumbling about how this is a sign and we shouldn’t go but I pretend not to hear him as I call a cab. We get in and I look at Shai. He looks like a mess and keeps saying he doesn’t feel right about going. I tell him make your decision now. He’s reaching for the handle about to get out as we make a right turn onto the FDR..too bad so sad, looks like your coming babe.

We go through the airport in silence and once I got to a point where I couldn’t take it anymore I called my friend to share this traumatic morning with her. She was amazing and gave me a whole speech to say to Shai, which I repeated perfectly and we made up. What would we do without girlfriends? We are finally both calm and go about our usual boarding ritual. I get on first with the carry on luggage so they can go in the overhead and Shai gets on last due to his debilitating claustrophobia. My 100lb ass has to put our luggage up all by myself while the queen waits to board...Yes this really is my life. I get on first and watch passenger and after passenger board and the people start slowing down, where the hell is Shai. Finally as they announce to take our seats on rolls my darling husband. He sits down and gets a text from Liat with this picture…

And he loses it. My big strong husband bursts into tears!!! I’m talking shaking, sobbing tears streaming down his face. He panics and runs to get off the plane and the stewardess shuts the door right in front of his face.

O-M-G. Well if he wasn’t having a panic attack yet, he officially was now. A few Xanax later and a lot of tickling my bear was finally passed out on my little shoulder. Crisis averted.

Four long hours later we land in Mexico and are ready to have some fun. We made the trek and were not about to cry through the vacation. Let me tell you, it was the best wedding I have ever been to. Tequila Tali came out and I danced like it was spring break 2003. It felt good to have adult conversations and chill out. I’m not gonna lie though, we did check in multiple times a day only to hear that Jagger did not cry 1x and was the perfect little doll. We got back Sunday night and was so excited to see him and this was the welcome we got…

A little blurry but he could care less that we were back :( So the moral of the story is that I highly reccomend taking a little getaway without the babes once in a while.  We probably won't do it again for a verrrrry long time, but it was a great weekend and we all got through it alive.

The latest...

So I’m saying it again, I know I haven’t written in forever but I hate to say it...There are other things I have to do other than write a blog. Like washing my hair, cleaning Jaggers toys or pureeing his food. Yes you heard correctly, I’m making all his baby food. We gave him his first solids on his 6-month birthday and it was really adorable. Side note- why the f*ck are they called “solids” when its really all pureed foods?!?! Anyway, I am definitely not one to hate on you mamas for buying jarred food but I still feel guilty about not being able to breast feed (yes I’m psycho), So I figured the least I can do is puree away. I never thought I would say this because you can rarely find me in the kitchen but I LOVE making his food. It’s actually very relaxing and it’s kinda fun to come up with creations for him. Shai also thinks I’m supermom for making it, which is very sweet. So far I have gone as basic as butternut squash to spinach & pear and yams & kale (all organic).  I’m sure some of you are gagging but this kid annihilates his bowl of kale..proud mama indeed. He has liked every single food I’ve put in front of him with the acceptation of avocado. He definitely has his father’s appetite and loves to eat!

We are currently doing 2 meals a day and I have a feeling Dr Barry will tell us to take it to 3 meals at our next appointment since he loves it so much. For breakfast he has full fat fage yogurt with baby oatmeal and bananas- he’s so grown up its scaring me!! And for dinner he has some veggie concoction that I make with usually 2 bowls of organic unsweetened applesauce for dessert. I told you- my kid is an animal. I really recommend you moms at least trying to make your babies food. Its not only easy and healthy, I’m pretty sure it’s cheaper. Not the best at math but that’s what I hear on the mean streets of the Upper East Side. My pediatrician also told me that I should give J water out of a straw cup (not a sippy!) at 6 months. He said after a while he will accidently get water up the straw and learn to use it. I’m not sure how but the 2^nd time he tried it voila- he got it. He now loooooves drinking water out of the cup and gets so excited every time he does it.

PS- I use the Beaba.

In other Jagger news he has developed a new obsession..swings. I have NEVER seen a kid so happy as when he’s on that thing. I’m starting to think its bringing him back beautiful memories of his lamb swing he loved so much as a newborn. Literally EVERY nanny comes over to watch him swing because he has a smile from ear to ear. I even purchased a swing that goes in the doorway so he can swing all day at home but the poor kid kept knocking his head on the wall #epicfail.  Guess I'll stick to the park on 67^th street.

Now it may sound like everything is easy peasy but its definitely not. My little doll is getting teeth and it is NOT fun. So far one bottom one is through and another is slowly rearing its ugly head. For the greater part of the day Jagger is biting down on something. Apparently most babies love those teething toys you freeze but not my Jagger boy. His favorite teething toy is my collarbone and let me tell you, it does not feel good. Those gums are strong! I have tried everything from a frozen washcloth, to baby Orajel and nothing seems to take away the pain when it hits, which by the way is so random-ugh! I know Tylenol is commonly used but I prefer to go the natural route as often as possible. If I don’t use medicine myself that often, I’m certainly not gonna use it on my son unless its REALLY needed. So this brings me to question for all you moms out there. Has ANYONE tried an amber necklace? I know its very hippy dippy but it seems amazing on their websites. According to my trusty Google, amber is a natural analgesic and babies who wear the necklace just feel better. I just need to hear it from a “real mom” if it works so any input is greatly appreciated.

Aside from this teething thing hes just freakin awesome. He has so much personality and is such a fun little boy. Hes sitting up so nicely, minus the few times he fell back and hit his head on the wood floor (oops) and is starting to scoot backwards on his belly. Every month I say to myself “this is the best age” and then somehow it just gets better and better. 

The Storm

So you know the saying “when it rains it pours”, well these past 2 weeks have been a freakin hurricane! Let me take it from the top.

 About 2 weeks ago I’m about to give J a bath when all of a sudden I feel nauseous. I’m thinking it will pass but as the minutes go by it gets worse and worse. I look at Shai, tell him he’s on his own and make a beeline for the bathroom. I’m sitting over the toilet and nothing will come out but I feel like I’m gonna die. I decided to stick my fingers down my throat because something needed to come out (The only upside to having my adolescence destroyed by an eating disorder). I literally cannot stop throwing up. Once it finally stops I take a look in the mirror and think OMG, I’m pregnant. I share what just happened with Shai and he looks like he won the goddam lottery. He could not be happier.  While he’s busy naming our second child, I take a test and thank g-d its negative. However within days my family went down like dominos. First Kev, then Tyler, then Liat, damn stomach bug. I’m thinking somehow J is in the clear but no chance I’m that lucky. One afternoon after a play date I pick him up out of the stroller and this kid made me his bitch. He threw up ALL over me. It was honestly one of the saddest things I’ve ever seen and I felt so helpless. Fortunately for us he only threw up twice but let me tell you, it was 2X too many. As the days went on he wasn’t throwing up anymore but still a mess. He used to take an 8oz a bottle (yes my sons an animal) and I was now force-feeding him 4oz. It got so bad that some bottles he refused to take at all and we had to give him pedialite so he at least got electrolytes. This stomach bug was lingering in my baby big time.

The days were becoming really hard because feeding was so stressful. I literally wouldn’t breath during feedings because I was afraid any movement would make him stop. This went on for so many days that I was convinced he was trying to slim down for his first summer in the Hamptons. I finally got to ask Dr Barry and he said the world is just much more interesting to him now and he would rather look around than eat and being sick didn’t help him…awesome!

As hard as the days were, the nights were become a nightmare too. Jagger has been sleeping through the night (7pm-7am) beautifully for almost a month now but 2 weeks ago when the “storm” started his nights turned into a mess too.  He started waking up every single morning at 5am crying. We would look in the monitor and he seemed to be stuck in the top left corner of his crib. Sidenote- he sleeps on his tummy now that he rolls over so I think that makes it even harder to move out. How the hell does he even get all the way up there, the kid doesn’t crawl?!?! So for the first few nights Shai or I would move him back to middle of the crib and he would go back to sleep.  Once the bug happened we were afraid he was hungry because he was hardly eating during the day so I would feed him, then put him back down. Well this kept on going for days so we said no more food and we would just move him. Well after consulting with Donna (my guru from the Big City moms support group), I came to learn it’s a 4-month sleep regression. Seriously! WTF, Just as they start sleeping you get hit with this bullshit! So the new rule last night was to let him cry for up to 12 minutes, if he doesn’t stop only go in then and get him back to sleep. Well Shai and I were all ready to leave him and what does this kid do? He sleeps till 720 this morning! You literally never know what you’re going to get!

If this isn’t enough to call these 2 weeks a storm, Shai catches the bug yesterday. I’m pretty sure it’s a man thing, not a Shai thing but he has been the worst out of everyone! All he does is complain and wine like a little bitch and I can honestly say my 4 month old was more of a man about it than he was. As he finally started feeling better someone up there decides to hit me with the ultimate F U and after 15 months thought it was a good time for me to get my period. Holy Shit!!!!! To say this has been a rough 2 weeks is an understatement. I must deserve a medal, or at least a cookie cake.

The craziest thing about this all, is that at the end of every long hard day, I plant a fat French kiss on my son’s mouth and tell him I love him more than life, because I do. He has my heart forever and he is my everything.